5 - The Need to Feel

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Episode Highlights

 

We all have a physical body, and we all have an emotional body.

 

We are all 99.9% identical. You can’t escape your DNA.

 

Everything seeks the fullest expression of its survival and thriving.

 

We have an emotional and spiritual DNA.

 

We are feeling creatures who need, desire, long and hope.

 

Hope is the birthmark and birthplace of being human. 

 

Human beings seek pleasure and seek to avoid pain. It turns out that without dealing with pain, we will never have the pleasure we are made to have. 

 

We have been given 8 feelings that open us up to needs. The 8 feelings are sad, fear, healthy shame, hurt, lonely, guilt, anger, and glad.

 

Free downloadable resources:

• 8 Feelings List
• 8 Feelings Chart (With Gifts & Impairments)

 

We have been given the gift of feeling. Because we live in a tragic place, if you don’t do feelings, you can’t do living. You can’t be emotionally present. 

 

We’ve been given fear that allows us to recognize danger and seek help.

 

We’ve been given sadness that allows us attach to what matters, what we care about, and also allows us 

to deal with loss because life is full of change.

 

We’ve been given hurt that calls us to seek healing in our wounds. Hurt is painful. You can’t carry on fully 

unless you get healing from hurt. Healing makes us wiser and courageous.

 

We’ve been given loneliness as a testimony that we’re relationally created to be in relationship with ourselves. We get loneliness to spend time with ourselves, solitude. We have loneliness to spend time with others. There are certain people who we are made to be connected with more than others. We get lonely for God and lonely to create and have impact. Loneliness brings us to friendship and intimacy.

 

We’ve been given anger. Anger is a very vulnerable feeling because it exposes what we care about. It is a feeling that allows us to hope, wish, want, desire, long and yearn. The gift of anger is passion, a willingness to be in pain for what matters more than pain.

 

Healthy shame is the dependency feeling. It is the recognition that I need you; You need me; I make mistakes; so do you; I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve got some, let’s share; I’m not God and you aren’t either; so let’s face that we’re in need of God.

 

Guilt lets us recognize when we do something that goes against our value system.

 

Gladness is an outcome of being good at the other 7 feelings. 

 

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